When Life Hit the Reset Button

They say life begins at 40.

For me, it felt like everything I thought I knew was crumbling.

One spontaneous comment ended my 13-year relationship, and suddenly I was standing in a life that no longer felt like home, wondering, why me? Who am I without this life I've built? Where is home? How will I survive financially? And what on earth comes next?

If you've ever felt like you were sleepwalking through a life that didn't quite fit, staying in situations that no longer served you because the unknown felt scarier than the familiar, you'll understand. I'd been in denial for years, but sometimes it takes everything falling apart for us to finally wake up.

Have you ever felt like you were stuck in a life that didn’t feel like yours?

Finding My Voice in the Chaos

My lifeline came in the most unexpected form of a blank journal page.

At first, it was messy and chaotic, but slowly, clarity emerged. I started simply, with three to five things each day that brought me joy: not the house, the car, or the bank balance. But genuine moments that brought joy. A warm conversation with Mum, the perfect latte, or a stunning sunset. These small delights became my anchors as I poured my heart and soul into the pages of my nonjudgemental companion.

My journal became my most trusted confidant, absorbing my tears and fears without judgment. And in those pages, harsh truths began to surface. I saw the patterns I'd been blind to: the people-pleasing, the fear of confrontation, the crushing belief that I wasn't enough. These limiting beliefs had woven themselves through every relationship, every career decision, every choice I'd made. No wonder I'd reached burnout twice. No wonder I'd sabotaged my own success.

Have you ever felt like you had to prove your worth to everyone but yourself?

Becoming the Author of My Own Life

The act of journalling became my mirror, reflecting both my shadows and my light. The pages showed me what I couldn't see on my own, offering answers when I felt lost, direction when I felt stuck, purpose when I felt empty.

Something incredible was happening: I was growing from the inside out. A different, more powerful version of myself was emerging.

The real power came when I understood how to use journalling strategically. With the right techniques at the right moments, everything finally started making sense. That's why I'm so passionate about writing for wellbeing, because I know in my heart that if it could change my life so completely, it can change yours too. That belief led me to wind down my communications agency and create Writing with Purpose: to help women like you unlock their potential and start living their dreams.

Adventures Beyond My Wildest Dreams

Journalling didn't just transform me, it unleashed me.

Through my daily musings, confidence and curiosity blossomed, and strong boundaries rose. Trail running and time in nature became my sanctuary, teaching me resilience and feeding my growth mindset.

I started saying yes to adventures that once terrified me: I summited Mount Kilimanjaro, swam the equivalent of the Hudson River (in a pool!), ran the entire Isle of Wight coastal path, and completed an ultra-marathon that started at midnight. Each challenge proved I was capable of far more than I'd ever imagined.

Through these adventures, I discovered new friendships and collected experiences that filled my heart to overflowing. Most beautifully, I found a soulmate who loves me exactly as I am – imperfections, peculiarities, and all.

Do I still battle those old limiting beliefs? Of course. But now I recognise them for what they are: thoughts, not truths. And I have the tools and confidence to rise above them.

The Page That Changed Everything

Looking back, what stands out most is the profound self-awareness I gained through journalling. By paying attention to my inner world, I reclaimed insights I didn't even know I'd lost.

My journal offered:

  • Unwavering support when I felt completely alone
  • A judgement-free space to vent, dream, and plan
  • Clarity when everything seemed impossibly foggy
  • Evidence of my growth when I couldn't see it myself

But perhaps most importantly, my writing helped me identify the triggers behind my emotional responses and self-sabotaging behaviours.

I could revisit painful memories from a safe distance, processing them instead of being consumed by them.

Today, I'm on a mission to share the transformative power of writing with 100,000 people over the next decade.

If you see yourself in my story, I'd love to help you journal your dream life. Let’s turn that blank page into your next chapter.

Because that blank page? It's not just paper. It's possibility.

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